Reciprocity is one of the unspoken foundations of human relationships. It underpins cooperation, trust, and social cohesion. The idea that “those who do not do favors should not ask for them” speaks to a basic principle: fairness in mutual support. When someone refuses to help others, yet expects help in return, it breeds imbalance and resentment. This principle is not about keeping score, but about integrity and mutual respect.

Doing favors is not just about transactions or obligations. It’s about generosity and willingness to contribute to the well-being of others without immediate reward. However, when someone consistently avoids offering support, whether through indifference or self-interest, they position themselves outside the community of goodwill. If that same person then expects others to show up for them, they are violating a social contract they themselves neglected.

In any social group — family, friendship, workplace, or neighborhood — healthy dynamics depend on give-and-take. When one side only takes, they slowly erode the trust others have in them. People begin to notice who helps and who doesn’t. And while most are willing to extend grace occasionally, repeated one-sidedness leads to distancing or rejection. Help is often withheld from those who have made it clear they do not offer it in return.

There’s also a deeper psychological issue at play. People who ask for favors without offering any may believe they are entitled to special treatment. They may rationalize their own inaction while judging others for being unavailable. This double standard reveals a lack of empathy or maturity. It undermines the communal spirit that allows human networks to thrive.

At the same time, this principle doesn’t mean everyone must be constantly available. Boundaries, energy levels, and life circumstances affect one’s ability to give. The distinction lies in attitude and pattern. Someone who generally tries to help when they can is very different from someone who avoids helping entirely but still expects support when it benefits them.

Ultimately, the message is simple: don’t demand what you refuse to give. Relationships are strongest when they are rooted in mutual care. If you want others to show up for you, you must be willing to do the same. Generosity inspires generosity. And fairness, even when unspoken, is felt.