Introduction

Dating can be a rollercoaster ride filled with ups and downs, often leading us to question our own judgment and choices. We’ve all experienced moments of self-doubt and uncertainty when it comes to relationships. It’s time to embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment by adopting a new statement of intent around dating: the “I really trust myself” ritual.

While the world of mantras and affirmations might seem cliche or ineffective, this ritual is designed to create a statement you can genuinely believe in. Even if you’re skeptical, give it a try; this exercise will help you identify the specific areas you need to work on to improve your dating experiences.

Part 1: Acknowledge Your Past Experiences

“I know what you’re thinking, ‘how can I possibly have a positive belief around dating when all of my past experiences have told me…'” This is precisely why we begin the statement of intent with the phrase, “up until now.” It allows you to acknowledge your past reality while consigning it to the past.

For example, you can start by saying, “Up until now, I haven’t had many good experiences with dating. I feel like every time I’m vulnerable enough to like someone, it ends in disaster.” This acknowledgment is essential as it sets the stage for change and self-trust.

Part 2: State Your Plan

Now, it’s time to shift your perspective from dating being something that happens to you to something you actively participate in and improve. In this section, state what you’re currently working on and the changes you’re making in the present tense. It’s a commitment to your personal growth and development in the dating arena.

For instance, you can say, “Right now, I’m working on slowing it down. I’m really taking my time to get to know people,” or “Right now, I’m working on being more open. I’m giving people a chance again.” This section emphasizes the importance of accountability and empowers you to take control of your dating journey.

State The Change.

Part 3: What You’d Like to See Happen

In this final part of the ritual, you create an open space in your mind for the possibility of positive change. While you may not fully believe it yet, this section encourages you to remain open to different outcomes.

For example, you can declare, “I remain open to love and connection,” “I remain open to the possibility that this could happen to me,” or “I remain open to being positively surprised.” By remaining open, you invite the potential for positive change into your dating life.

Conclusion

The “I really trust myself” ritual is just one of many tools available to help you navigate the world of dating with confidence and self-assurance. By acknowledging your past experiences, stating your plan for change, and remaining open to new possibilities, you can begin to shift your mindset and take control of your dating journey.

This exercise is part of the foundation course Attraction Circle, which offers 15 more “rituals” to transform your perspective on dating and boost your self-confidence. Remember, change takes time, but with commitment and self-trust, you can create a more positive and fulfilling dating experience for yourself.