Use this chart to evaluate a connection. Print it out and mark Yes or No in the boxes as you reflect.
Key Questions
Question Yes No Do I feel energized after spending time with them? [ ] [ ] Do they celebrate my successes and support me in struggles? [ ] [ ] Can I be myself without fear of judgment? [ ] [ ] Is the effort and care in the relationship balanced? [ ] [ ] Do they encourage my growth and better choices? [ ] [ ] Do I trust them with honesty and vulnerability? [ ] [ ]
Positive Signs
Positive Sign Yes No I feel understood and respected. [ ] [ ] They listen and show interest in me. [ ] [ ] My boundaries are acknowledged and honored. [ ] [ ] We share laughter, comfort, or meaning. [ ] [ ] Disagreements are handled with respect. [ ] [ ]
Warning Signs
Warning Sign Yes No I often leave interactions doubting myself. [ ] [ ] Criticism outweighs encouragement. [ ] [ ] I feel anxious before seeing them. [ ] [ ] The relationship is mostly about their needs. [ ] [ ] My feelings, boundaries, or goals are dismissed. [ ] [ ]
Weekly Reflection
Question Yes No Did this person add more energy than they drained? [ ] [ ] Did I feel respected and safe with them? [ ] [ ] Is this connection helping me grow? [ ] [ ]
