For many, the process of social learning is a direct, often subconscious activity of observation and imitation. Yet for others, especially those with distinct internal experiences such as dissociative identity disorder or other plural systems, this process can be more complex and multilayered. These individuals may find that their internal system dynamics introduce an additional step in their social adaptation process. This involves not just observing and imitating external behaviors but also processing these behaviors through an internal “two-part improv act” between different parts or alters within the system. This unique internal interaction can significantly influence their external social interactions.

The Internal Mimicry Process

In plural systems, different parts or alters may take on various roles, including the internalization and processing of social behaviors. For these individuals, understanding and adapting to social norms often involves an internal dialogue or rehearsal before these behaviors are expressed externally. This internal process can be thought of as a continuous, dynamic rehearsal space where social interactions are tested and refined.

For those experiencing this internal dynamic, the process might feel like a perpetual improv session where different parts engage with each other to practice or debate the appropriate social responses. Initially, this might be mistaken for rumination—a repetitive pattern of negative thinking—which can often be misconstrued as detrimental. However, upon deeper understanding and system discovery, it becomes clear that this process is a functional and necessary part of their social adaptation, not a harmful compulsion.

The Role of External Neurotypical (NT) Behaviors

While internal rehearsals play a crucial role in the social learning process for those with plural systems, the accuracy and effectiveness of this process depend heavily on external references. Individuals in plural systems often rely on observing the behavior of external neurotypical (NT) individuals to build and update their models of social normativity. This external observation is crucial because it provides a frame of reference that informs the internal improv act, helping to calibrate it against prevailing social norms.

However, challenges arise when the primary or only frame of reference becomes the interactions within the system itself, particularly if these interactions do not include engagement with external NT individuals. Without external reference points, the internal model of social behavior can become skewed or inaccurate, leading to potential misunderstandings or misalignments in social settings.

The Importance of External Interaction

The reliance on external NT behaviors underscores the importance of diverse social interactions for individuals within plural systems. Engaging with a broad range of people provides a richer, more varied set of social cues that can be internalized and processed. This diversity helps ensure that the internal models of social behavior are more comprehensive and better aligned with wider societal norms.

Conclusion

Understanding the unique system dynamics of social learning in plural systems sheds light on the complexities of social adaptation faced by those with distinct internal experiences. The internal mimicry and rehearsal between different parts of a system, once understood, highlight a sophisticated mechanism of social learning that goes beyond simple imitation. Recognizing the importance of external social interactions in refining these internal processes is crucial. It not only helps individuals in plural systems navigate their social environments more effectively but also enriches their internal dynamics, leading to a more nuanced understanding of social normativity. This recognition also calls for a broader societal acceptance and support for diverse mental experiences, fostering a more inclusive environment where all individuals can thrive.