Listen to the Things That Tug at You
There is a quiet guidance system that runs beneath your calendar, your obligations, and your forecasts. It shows up as a tug. A line in a book that will not let you turn the page. A place you keep thinking about on the commute. A skill you Google late at night. These tugs are not […]
What Difference Does It Make
We ask this when we feel tired, doubtful, or small. The question can be a shrug that justifies doing nothing. It can also be a lens that shows where action actually matters. Used well, it separates noise from signal and turns intention into impact. Where difference hides Difference is rarely loud in the moment. It […]
If Thought Takes Time, Worry Wastes Existence
Thought is the most limited resource you own. Every second you spend thinking is a second of your life. If thought takes time, and your time is finite, then worry is an unusually costly habit. It converts living, doing, and understanding into static loops that produce no movement. The price is paid in hours you […]
What Is True, What Matters, and What Can I Do Next
Three questions can turn noise into movement. They cut through panic, ego, and habit. Ask them in order, then act. What is true Start by separating data from story. • Facts: what has been observed, recorded, signed, paid, shipped, or said on the record• Unknowns: what you do not yet know and could learn• Constraints: […]
Why Smart People Worry About Dumb Things
Smart minds run hot. They simulate futures, notice patterns, and chase precision. The same horsepower that solves hard problems can also get stuck on trivia. Here is why that happens, and what to do about it. The mechanics behind trivial worry Quick tests that expose dumb worries Ask three filters in order: • Impact: if […]
12 Rules for Optimizing the Fifth Decimal Place When the First Digit Is Still Unknown
This is an article about precision with judgment. The joke in the title is the trap itself. You cannot optimize the fifth decimal place if you have not even fixed the first digit. Use these rules to earn precision in the right order. 1) Name the first digit State the order of magnitude first. Are […]
What Increases My Chances of Success
Success is a probability game. Tilt the odds by stacking small, reliable advantages that compound over time. Here is a punchy playbook you can reuse. Clarify the target Build a simple plan Protect the engine Use time as a weapon Make decisions faster Learn in tight loops Raise leverage Manage risk on purpose Choose your […]
Do They Even Deserve an Apology
An apology is not a surrender. It is a tool to acknowledge harm and repair trust. The real question is not who deserves what, but whether an apology is true, useful, and safe. What an apology is for When they deserve one When they do not A three-lens test If any lens fails, reconsider the […]
What It Means To Be Mean-Spirited
Mean-spirited behavior is not about firm standards or honest feedback. It is about enjoying someone else’s pain, shrinking them to grow yourself, or using harm as a shortcut to power. The tone is contempt, the goal is domination, the method is small cuts that add up. Core definition Mean-spirited: choosing words or actions that create […]
The Conflict Is Mainly A Difference In Preferences Or Values, And You Were Transparent About Yours
Not every conflict has a villain. Sometimes you have a clear preference or value, you stated it upfront, and the other side has a different one. That is a compatibility problem, not a moral failure. Treat it as a design problem: align, adapt, or part ways with respect. First, verify the diagnosis Use quick checks […]