Speak Your Mind vs Remain Mysterious: Pros and Cons
The Core Tension You want to be understood without feeling overexposed. You want to be intriguing without becoming inscrutable. Deciding when to speak plainly and when to hold back is a social skill that changes with context, goals, and trust. Speaking Your Mind What it is Clear, direct expression of thoughts, needs, limits, and ideas […]
We Do It Ourselves
There is a quiet power in deciding that help may come, but progress will not wait. “We do it ourselves” is not stubborn isolation. It is an ethic of agency, responsibility, and shared craft. It says the world improves when we roll up our sleeves, learn what we do not know yet, and build the […]
Late Nite by The Strokes: Guitar Chords and Lyrics
Loading… Columns Loading… The Strokes – Last Nite [C] [Verse 1] [C]Last night she said [Dm]”Oh, baby, I feel so down [G]Oh, it turns me off [Em]When I feel left [Dm]out” [C]So I, I turned around [Dm]Oh, baby, don’t care no more [G]I know this for sure [Em]I’m walking out that [Dm]door [C]Well, I’ve been […]
How to Avoid the Paralysis of Analysis
Overthinking stalls progress. The goal is not perfect certainty but useful action followed by learning. Here is a practical playbook to move when your brain wants to spin. 1) Set a decision size and match the effort 2) Use a time box, not a finish line Give yourself a fixed window to decide. Example: 20 […]
The Power of Setting the Tone With Others
Tone is the emotional climate you create. It shapes how people listen, what they share, and how well you work together. Set the tone on purpose and you guide outcomes. Leave it to chance and you inherit whatever mood walks into the room. Why tone matters The first 90 seconds Your opening cues do most […]
Why We Fixate On Others More Than Ourselves Today
We live in a time when attention flows outward. Opinions, likes, reputations, and headlines pull our focus to what everyone else is doing. That pull feels stronger than it did for earlier generations. The reasons sit in how we communicate, how we work, what we fear, and what we value. What was different in the […]
How to Practice Being Real With Other People
What can go right, what can go wrong, and how to handle both What “being real” means Being real is honest talk and aligned behavior. Your inside voice matches your outside words. You aim for clarity without cruelty, warmth without pretending, and accountability without blame. Core practices What can go right What can go wrong […]
How to Tell If Something Is Too Good To Be True, Or Actually Good
Start with a hypothesis, not a hope Before you get excited, write one sentence about what you think is being offered and why it might work. This centers your judgment on facts rather than feelings. Run the 5 quick checks Red flags that say slow down Green flags that say keep evaluating The 60 second […]
Thinking Ahead In Exactly The Right Way
The point of thinking ahead Good foresight is not guessing the future. It is setting yourself up so most futures work in your favor. The goal is better odds, fewer avoidable problems, and more upside when things go well. Start with a clean aim If you cannot write these three lines, you are not ready […]
Language, The Limiter Of Expression
The paradox Language is our sharpest tool for sharing minds, yet it is also a fence. It lets us point, compare, and coordinate, but every word trims the wildness of what we feel and know. Expression becomes translation. Something is always lost in transit. Why language narrows experience How language also expands us The lesson […]