In modern Satanism, particularly in the form outlined by the Church of Satan, one principle often emphasized is: never give unsolicited advice. This guideline reflects a broader theme of respecting boundaries, promoting personal responsibility, and avoiding intrusion into others’ lives without invitation. The idea is that people grow stronger when they seek their own answers and take ownership of their choices. Giving advice when it’s not asked for can come across as arrogant, controlling, or presumptuous.
But is all unsolicited advice inherently bad? Or does the value of such advice depend on intention, delivery, and context?
Why Unsolicited Advice Is Often Problematic
- It can feel like judgment
When someone gives advice without being asked, it can come across as “You’re doing it wrong” or “You don’t know what you’re doing.” This can create defensiveness, especially if the recipient wasn’t looking for input. - It disrupts autonomy
Many people value making decisions on their own. Giving advice uninvited can undermine a person’s process or suggest they are not capable of figuring things out. - It may miss the full picture
Without being invited into the conversation, the advice-giver may lack key context. Their suggestion, while well-meaning, might not actually fit the situation. - It often serves the giver more than the receiver
Sometimes unsolicited advice is more about the speaker feeling wise or in control, rather than truly helping the other person. This can weaken trust and connection.
When Unsolicited Advice Might Be Helpful
Despite these risks, there are moments when unsolicited advice can be valuable or even necessary — if delivered with sensitivity and wisdom.
- When safety or harm is involved
If someone is about to make a dangerous mistake or is unaware of a serious risk, stepping in with advice can be an act of care. In these cases, concern can override etiquette. - When you have a unique perspective the other person clearly lacks
Sometimes people don’t know what they don’t know. If your insight could fill in a crucial gap — and if you offer it humbly — it might be received as help rather than intrusion. - When the relationship has built-in guidance
In mentorship, parenting, or leadership roles, advice is often part of the relationship. Even then, timing and tone still matter. - When it’s framed as curiosity, not instruction
Instead of telling someone what they should do, asking a thoughtful question or sharing your experience can invite reflection without making demands.
What Makes the Difference
- Intent
Are you offering advice to serve the other person, or to validate yourself? - Timing
Are they open, emotional, overwhelmed, or focused? Timing can determine whether advice lands as helpful or harmful. - Tone
Is the advice delivered with humility and respect, or with superiority and pressure? - Consent
You can ask: “Would it help if I shared a thought?” or “Can I offer an idea?” A simple invitation can turn unsolicited advice into welcomed support. - Respect for boundaries
Even when the advice seems necessary, it’s important to remember the other person’s right to choose their path — even if they fail.
Conclusion
In Satanism and many other philosophies of self-ownership, unsolicited advice is discouraged because it often reflects a lack of respect for personal freedom and accountability. However, not all unsolicited advice is harmful. The difference lies in intent, approach, and timing.
Before offering advice, pause. Ask yourself: “Am I helping or intruding?” If the answer leans toward respect and care, and you deliver it with humility, the advice may be received in the spirit it was intended. If not, the best support may simply be silence, presence, and patience until you are invited to speak.
